Does Anyone Have The Answers Sway?!…. #LifeGoals

Advice to my younger self, older self and present self, no one has the answers and if they do they’re not telling.

So I’m coming to the point in my life where I thought I would have it all together. You know when you were a teenager and you imagined how your adult life would be. Every year around my birthday I review the year to see if I met the goals I set for myself and if I’m on a path that I would like to continue on or do I want to change paths. In order for me to know if I accomplished my goals I review my vision board. I make a vision board every year on my birthday, I use it to reflect on my long-term and short-term goals for my life. I used to just write down my goals but I noticed when I had a visual picture that is similar to my goal or in some way represents my goal it helps me visualize myself accomplishing/attaining the goal.  And when I meditate I visually see the image I am pursuing and it helps me to continue pushing for what I want.

Last year I realized I wanted to live the life that I dreamed of as a child, that is what led me to moving across the country. I decided before I consciously began to settle down and have kids I wanted to give my life dreams a final push and live fearlessly, living the life of my dreams. This leads me to another practice that I started last year; setting  a mantra for the year. I make up a mantra to go along with my vision board because just like meditation it helps me to keep my focus when things start to seem uncontrollable. When I feel confused, defeated or lost I repeat my mantra to remind myself of my goals and what I am working towards. Me and my husbands mantra for 2014 was ‘Walking Into Our Destiny’ and 2015 was ‘2015 Living My Dreams’. I haven’t decided what 2016’s mantra is going to be but I already have some goals in mind that I am going to give 110% effort to accomplish. I feel so close to “having it all” but I also feel the urge to start my family (baby fever) and I am so scared because I know there are still so many things I would like to accomplish before having kids.

With that being said I started to question is anyone living the life they dreamed of as a child or teenager? Does anyone have the answers for a less stressful and confusing way of accomplishing their goals in life? And my final question, is anyone else freaked out to have a child when you know for a fact you don’t have your “Shit” together (at least not together the way you would want your life to be)?!  Does anyone have the answers?! Anyone?!


blog1Please comment and let me know your thoughts, maybe you have the answers or at least an opinion to help ease my anxiety.

#LifeGoals #LifeInstructionManual #MillennialMoment #MillennialQuestions #WhenDoYouKnowYouHaveItTogether



Pin Point the Positives #PushThroughNegativity #PositiveOutlook

Tips For Staying Positive & Pushing Through Negativity:

Recently a few of my friends have been having a rough time keeping a positive outlook when facing negative obstacles. We all go through ups and downs in life, the key is to not waste your time wallowing in sad, angry or negative emotions. When you’re negative our stressed out it drains all your energy and you aren’t able to put that energy to good use in other ways, for example bettering yourself or your situation. I wanted to share some tips that help me get through rough times and keep a  positive outlook in the face of negativity. I believe these techniques can help you to control your emotions and not allow your emotions to control you. Remember to live in the moment, love like never before, and laugh until it hurts :-)

Check out my short video of tips for positivity below and let me know if these tips help you and please feel free to share some tips that have helped you stay positive when dealing with negative emotions.

Love & Marriage, Love & Marriage #MarriageMilestone

Marriage Milestone…. Yes I Married Young #MillennialMarriage

So we made it past the 5 year mark!!!

Less than a week until our six-year anniversary and I wanted to share my thoughts on getting married young and some advice to having a long lasting happy relationship.


Recently I was having a conversation with an older woman and I just so happened to mention my husband (as I frequently do because everything reminds me of him) and she looked at me, tilted her head and asked a question that me and my husband receive a lot especially from older people…”How old are you? You look too young to be married” then the next inevitable question “How long have you been married?” next comment is “Wow! You got married young! Usually young couples don’t make it past five years.”

Yes we got married young. It was less than a month until my 23rd birthday and my husband was 24yrs; He just got back from boot camp after enlisting into the Navy and I was in my last year of college. We talked about getting married before he left, well that’s putting it lightly. After dating for 3 years then getting our first place together, he did the appropriate/ cliché thing and asked my father for my hand in marriage. Of course my dad said yes along with rambling about financial burdens that come with marriage, etc. And once the recruiter gave him (my then boyfriend, now husband) his leave date to head off to boot camp we discussed getting married before he left but I insisted I wanted to wait until I graduated. During his time away in boot camp and after flying out to attend his graduation we realized we couldn’t be away from each other any longer and decided to get married as soon as he got out of boot camp. Of course this left no time to plan a wedding ceremony which I was okay with because similar to other great women (Oprah, Wendy Williams, Goldie Hawn and so many more) I never pictured a dream wedding. Some little girls dream of a big princess wedding ceremony, me I never pictured a wedding. To be honest as a child I never thought I would get married. I dreamed of being a gypsy/ award-winning actress and traveling the world and having a great love affair, then writing about my adventures and eventually having kids with an extremely sexy, powerful business man. But I digress…

Long story short, I am one of the lucky ones; I was blessed to find literally the love of my life/soul mate or whatever you want to call it at a young age. We’ve had so many adventures together, we have the same spiritual outlook on life, have similar interest and our own goals which means we never get bored with each other. There is literally never a dull moment, which can sometimes be exhausting; but adventure and excitement was the main thing that I hoped for in my adult life as a child. Now that I am in my late twenties and it is now on trend in my age group to get married, have kids and basically settle into a consistent domestic lifestyle; It is interesting watching via social media the beginning ups and downs of friends and classmates relationships and it reminds me of our past experiences. I’m so thankful we have made it through our ups and downs and past the five-year marriage hump.  We have seen and known a lot of our former friends and school mates that weren’t able to have a long lasting relationship/marriage (sadly). Long-term relationships and marriage aren’t easy and I wanted to take a moment to speak on some ways we got through the inevitable ups and downs that comes with relationships and marriage, especially when you’re younger and still figuring out your own personal emotions and growth.

Be open and honest

Know what YOU want, not what you think will look like a good couple on social media or what your significant other wants but what you want. For example if you like to travel or work out regularly, then be honest with your self and your partner and let them know this is something I like to do and let your partner decide if they would like to be apart of that part of your life. Sometimes your partner will want to join you in some of your hobbies and sometimes they won’t. If they choose not to then you can use it as your “me” time so you don’t lose yourself in the relationship, you always have an activity or hobby that is your truest you.

Take Interest In Your Partners Hobbies

It is good to be open to new things that take you out of your comfort zone, that includes hobbies, foods, movies, etc. Trying something new with your partner will show that you care about them enough to try something that either you don’t like or you would not have been open to try before. Also it kind of massages your partners ego, letting them lead you in a new adventure.

Keep Things Fresh, Try New Things Together

When you have been together for a while sometimes you get bored. Instead of feeling like you need to start making memories with someone new, make new memories with your same partner. For example take a trip to a new place, try new activities together, cook new meals together, basically just think of something that neither you or your partner have done before and go for it! Usually trying something new will bring you closer together because you are forced to work together to figure out a new obstacle or adventure.

Keep Things Flirty

Think back to when you first started dating and remember the days of flirting, doing subtle things to intrigue your partner. Continue to flirt and be sexual at random moments during the day. Send a flirty text every so often, surprise your partner with something new(sexy outfit for the home of course, etc.).

Show Your Appreciation With Words And Actions

Let your partner know that you appreciate them even if it’s just saying thank you after they take out the trash or for taking care of you when you are sick. This means a lot because your partner knows that you genuinely love and appreciate their efforts in the relationship no matter how big or small. Make sure to do things your partner would appreciate, for example making a nice meal after they’ve had a long day, show affection with kisses, hugs and etc. These small actions and words come in handy during the tough times when you may want to get angry over something small you can quickly recall a recent memory of a sweet gesture your partner did or when your partner recently voiced how much they appreciate and love you, that helps to calm  your response. It is okay to still voice whatever you may be upset about but just recalling a positive moment helps you express yourself through love not anger or hurt.


I hope these tips are useful with helping you deal with ups and downs in your relationship. Remember don’t compare your relationship to others because no person or relationship is perfect so don’t be so hard on yourself, we are all works in progress. Live, Love, Laugh

Flash Back Friday: New Music Edition #Adele

OMG OMG That Time I Met ADELE!!! And now she is back with new music!!!!!


Since the very first time I heard her song ‘Hometown Glory’ and then her remake of Bob Dylan’s ‘Make You Feel My Love’ I have been a HUGE FAN! Then I had the opportunity to meet her while I was working with Sony Music and I actually got to see her perform in person! Literally one of the best moments of my life, it was in an intimate setting at the famed Brooklyn Bowl in New York City. Now that she is back from her hiatus she still has that amazing voice that gives me chills. Check out her video below for her new song ‘Hello’



Wednesday Work Wardrobe #OOTD

Business Casual with a pinch of leather #OOTD

If you work in the creative field and you have the opportunity to dress business casual you get to push the limits and try out the current trends. For the past few seasons leather has been a huge trend and hopefully the trend doesn’t go away anytime soon because I lovvvveee leather pants (well faux leather for this outfit post). This is definitely the super casual spin on the leather pants look, check it out below.


OOTD Details:

Faux Leather Pants- H&M

White Vneck- American Apparel

Jean Jacket- H&M

Shoes- Call It Spring

Silver Necklace- H&M

I’ve Been Cooking, I’ve Been Cooking….Carryout Edition

Where are the good carryouts on the west coast? East vs West Coast food (Carryout edition)

Since moving I’ve realized that some food that we love back on the East Coast isn’t available on the West Coast and if it is available it isn’t made the same way (the good way). So instead of complaining when we were unable to find a carry out with decent shrimp fried rice, I decided to make some from scratch at home. Check out my quick and easy way to make shrimp fried rice and fyi it taste better than the carryouts :-)

Getting to know the new… #MillennialsOnTheMove

Ways to become more familiar with your new city or place of residence #MillennialsOnTheMove  

I had a serious case of being homesick my second month of living in a new city. You would think, oh you live in Los Angeles there’s lots to do to keep yourself busy and not get homesick.  But when you are in a new city with no family or close friends you tend to feel lonely and scared; especially if you don’t have coworkers, classmates or associates to hang out with. So I immediately started to brain storm how can I get out the house without spending money, work towards bettering myself and meet people that live in the area?…

Get involved with networking events via churches, local recreation centers, libraries, or college campuses.

When I relocated I did not have a full time job so I decided to find a local library and began to research my areas job placement and assistance locations, along with checking out flyers and postings in the library. Libraries are a great place to find things to do in your area. While researching on the internet I found a job placement assistance program that had a monthly meeting for people in the entertainment field to network. Initially I had anxiety about attending the event, I wasn’t sure what to expect and I felt insecure because I didn’t want to seem desperate for friends, or a job. But then I reminded myself the people attending this event are most likely in similar situations and are probably just interested in finding out what the networking event had to offer (just like me). Needless to say I attended the event and I was so happy to meet the people who attended the event and to meet liked minded people; I didn’t feel shy and disconnected anymore and I was able to potentially take a step towards my ultimate goal which was to get work in my field or at least meet like minded people. I ended up meeting a guy who told me about a faith based networking group that he was apart of and invited me to attend their next meeting. I attended the networking event that the guy invited me to and since it was a faith based event I felt even more confident and comfortable to speak with people; I walked in ready to talk and open to meeting new people. This was another amazing event, and once again I met some great people. Attendees and panelist discussed their struggles and triumphs and I even met a few people that had moved from the East Coast like me! I met a woman that lives near me and is from the same area as me on the East Coast, we’ve hung out a couple of times and she has become a great friend :-) Needless to say I have been attending this monthly entertainment networking event every month since and it literally uplifts my spirit and reminds me to keep going and also gets me out the house.

Sometimes you need to be inspired by others to remind yourself that if this person can do it, so can you!

Keep in mind when moving to a new area the internet is your friend, research places and activities that match your wants/needs. (ie: If you like to be active, find a local sports club or recreation centers you can join. If you like the arts find groups that do more creative things, etc.) Seek and Ye Shall Find


Go Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams. They are right there in front of you. Your adventure awaits you. :):


Disappearing Acts….. My Comeback

Whenever I disappear for a while, I always make major strides.  I am the type of person that I sometimes need to seclude myself when I am working to take my next step in life, mainly because I can’t have naysayers or any outside influences distracting me from what God places in my heart. When I first set out on my journey to ‘Live My Dreams In 2015’ I was at times scared of what my heart was telling me to do and I only felt comfortable telling my husband, close friends (who had similar goals/dreams) and my family once I was confident in my decisions because I am sure my family would have tried to talk me out of my next moves due to their own fears.  Order my steps in your word dear Lord; I am so thankful that I asked for guidance and I was not afraid to follow. 

So much has happened since my last post in June….. First let me start by saying I am blessed to be employed at my dream company and I am actively pursuing my first passion as a child, Acting :-)  I was recently cast in a new sitcom, well I was cast as a background actor and the director picked me out of ever other background actor to be one of the principal actors (no words, but I have a close up and I am talking and gesturing with the main actors in a scene).  This experience was so exhilarating I was reminded that this is something that I am naturally GREAT at and I will continue to go to casting calls and auditions in my free time (when I am not working :-)).  I know that I will be able to successfully pursue all my passions in entertainment and media because I am truly following my heart.

Also I was able to finally throw together the edited footage of our cross-country travels (check out the video below & please subscribe to my YouTube channel for more video updates).  In the future I will be producing my own video content for lifestyle, entertainment and fashion enthusiast (short segments of movie/television reviews, fashion reviews and on location at red carpets).  By living my dreams, I hope to be able to inspire others to reach for their dreams no matter how outlandish.

OOTD It Never Rains In SoCal *side eye*

So last week was a very gray, and gloomy week accompanied with you guessed it a few rain drops. The only positive thing about the rain and cloudy, chilly days was the fact that California is in a drought so we need every bit of rain we can get and I got to wear my Zara leather pants that I purchased while still on the East Coast and never got the chance to wear!  Check it out below….


FullSizeRender Of course throughout the day I switched from my flats to my heels, but I kind of like the pants better with the flats.



Outfit details:

Zara -cream leather pants

Pumps- Target black pumps

Flats- Forever 21 or DSW *not sure*

V-neck shirt- American Apparel

Sweater- H&M

Testing, testing…. is there a BB cream out there for me?!

On the hunt for the perfect BB cream!  With summer literally right around the corner (June 21), I need a go to bb cream or primer so that I don’t have to wear a full “beat face” of makeup daily and still be camera ready.  I have tried two so far that left me disappointed and wondering are bb creams all hype?  But I’m still on the hunt and I wanted to document my skin care journey. Below is my review on the two creams I have tried and two more that I will be trying out next.

Maybelline BB cream-






This was not good on my skin, I have oily skin and this made my skin first look dry and then it got really oily throughout the day and did not match my skin tone.


I also tried Loreal BB cream-


I really liked this cream for the first two days then I started to have skin irritation. I stopped using it for a day to see if it was the cream and the irritation went away, then I used it again the following day and my skin became irritated again. Reasons why I liked the bb cream it gave me a flawless even skin tone appearance and it didn’t make me look oily by the end of the day but I didn’t like how I would have visible breakouts and blemishes when I removed the cream at the end of the day. I may give this product another try and test it more on a long term basis, maybe a month.


BB creams/ primers I want to try and most likely will test in the near future,

Neutrogena healthy skin primer-






Clinique BB cream-







My skin type is medium dark, oily, and acne prone. Overall since moving to a different my skin is clearer, fewer breakouts and my skin appears to have a more even tone. My aim is to have brighter and more even toned skin; along with a regular skin care regimen for day and night time including the healthiest and most natural products. Looking forward to finding some great everyday skin care products.
If you have any suggestions for me leave comments, I would love to hear them.